What I Learned This Spring 2017

  1. Canada had a day for talking about mental health in Jan. If you want to look it up it is 
  2. Boomers and Elders define generosity as service, money, and giving. Millennials define generosity as hospitality.
  3. One in four millennials consider the Bible to be a dangerous book of religious dogma
  4. 1 out of every 3 people have major insecurities.

What I Am Into at the start of 2017


Love Lives Here by Maria Goff  (4/5) – This is a book about her life and how chooses to learn from her experiences. This a wonderful book.

Singled Out: Why Celibacy Must Be Reinvented in Today’s Church by Christine A. Colón and Bonnie E. Field  (4/5)- This book explores what singles are facing in the church. It helps us see that they are marginalized. It also shows how we can make them feel more included. I have always struggled as a single in churches because they usually focus on married people. It also encourages singles to plug into a church no matter how difficult it is. This book also show us that we focus to much on the nuclear family and not enough on the family of the Body of Christ.

How to Survive a Shipwreck by Jonathan Martin (2/5)- I love Jonathan Martin but I was not impressed with this book. I was going through a really bad time and thought this would be helpful. It was confusing and vague.


The Choice (5/5) – This was a wonderful thought provoking hopeless romantic movie.

On the Other Side of the Door (4/5) – A mother’s son dies a tragic death. She brings his spirit back and he becomes evil. I loved this horror movie.

Beauty and the Beast (5/5) – excellent live recreation of this story.

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It is Important to Learn How to Love Yourself

“To whom do I owe the biggest apology? No one’s been crueller than I’ve been to me.”
                         -Alanis Morissette
           I grew up in environments that caused me to hate myself. Most of my life I felt stupid, weird, hated, ugly, and worthless. To be honest I still feel these things. However, I am growing to love myself. It will take awhile to be fully there. But I am learning baby steps are okay. I wanted to share some of the things that mentors have shared with me.
  1. A mentor told me that I can’t tolerate people because I can’t tolerate my self. This was a punch in the gut ( metaphorically).  I was upset , angry, and offended when I heard this but it was true. I was constantly harsh on other people. If you get annoyed and dislike other people it could be a sign that you aren’t loving and accepting yourself.
  2.  My counselor and I talk about being Selfish versus having Self Interest. Selfish is  lacking consideration for others; concerned chiefly with one’s own personal profit or pleasure. Self Interest refers to a focus on the needs or desires (interests) of the self. ( however if you google it you will get  the same definition as you did for self fish. This is the one time I trust what wikipedia says over a dictionary. ) I always have to try to follow what other people like to fit in. If someone told me that  I was dumb because I didn’t like going to baseball games then I would start attending baseball games. But what I am learning is I am allowed to dislike and like what I want. If I want to dislike baseball games even though my friends enjoy it that is okay. I can choose not to go to the baseball game if I want. This is just one of many examples on how having Self Interest is okay.
  3. I had several mentors tell me that I am insecure. Even though this is great insight to understanding myself. I learned that being insecure is self loathing. Telling me that I am insecure doesn’t work. You have to teach people how to be secure in themselves. I am slowly learning the process.

Finding your Sacred Place

I have often thought of having a sacred place. This would be any place you want to go regularly to spend time with God. Of course you can go any place at any time and God will be there. In fact God is always with you. But their is something refreshing about picking out a spot to go spend time with God. A place where you can go by yourself and focus on Him. I made that place at the end of my dock. It is just me, animals, and the river. There is no T.V. , music, or anything that would distract me from devoting my time to God. I just wanted to share with you because it has helped me fix my eyes on God to have a holy place. If you are feeling stuck go try it sometime. Go to the same place every day at the same time and do your devotions. It was worked me. It may not work for you and that is okay. Everyone has certain practices that help them. But I wanted to share.

Why Relationships Take Work

Cutting people out of your life is easy, keeping them in is hard. –Walter Dean Myers, Slam!

When I was fifteen a friend broke up with me. I remember it like it was yesterday. We were on the phone. She told me that I wanted close friendships. She would prefer to have a lot of friends. But there is a statement she made that I have pondered over and over again.  She said I want to be your friend but friendships should not take work. Years later I have decided that I do not agree with what this friend said. People are broken, sinners, and  sometimes fail. God knows we aren’t perfect. We should know we aren’t perfect. When you have two broken people it makes a messy relationship. Therefore will relationships take work. We need to realize this. We need to give grace and love to each other. Don’t hold people to standards far to high for them to obtain. Do work on having healthy and whole relationships.

What I Am Into December , 2016


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  • Wounded by God’s People: Discovering How God’s Love Heals Our Hearts – I liked this book. However, I thought it was really repetitive and dragged out. I loved how this book told of the story of Hagar. I was able to relate to Hagar in many ways and how she felt so isolated from God. But coming to the realization who it is ourselves who isolate from God. We also hold resentment towards God and others for the wounds that people have put on us. However, we must forgive and show sacrificial love towards them.

Reaching out to Christians.

I am finally going to a new church and I am getting connected. They had a Christmas party today and I felt like I belonged. The church only has a couple of family’s and they want to go. He was talking about reaching out to people. However, he was mainly focused on reaching out to Christians. I was pleasantly surprise. He wants to find people that haven’t been to church in 10 years because they got hurt. He wants to find Christians who are losing their faith.  He gave other kinds of examples too. Oh how I wish I could remember them all because it really touched my heart. He has already reached out to me to be the childrens minister. He said the holy spirit told him to reach out to me. He doesn’t know that I have been a cynic when it comes to all things churchy. He doesn’t know that I have stopped going to church because never i was included. I usually got ignored or made fun of at church. Church was almost never been a good experience for me. I have always prayed to God for a church family. To be honest I HAVE NEVER have heard a pastor who wants to go out and find CHRISTIANS. The ones that have been lonely, the outsiders , the neglected, and abused. I think post pastors (unintentionally) forget about those Christians. I reccomend that your read this blog post called How To Love the Cynics by addie zierman. Please never forget that christians need people to reach out to them too.